The cliché that women have it easier when it comes to dating is exactly that: a cliché. Some of the single women using dating websites to search for a love partner online invest much time and effort in polishing their profile, but do not receive invitations to a chat; others get too many some even end up losing interest and stop responding. Many feel insecure when the time to meet in real life seems ripe, or nervous during their first dates. More than one will be surprised and feel confused when that single man in question does not call back, or says he is not interested anymore after a few meetings where things seemed to work out well enough.
What can women do to increase their chances of succeeding in the Love Cupid scene? Coaching experts highlight some factors that, according to men, would improve feminine attractiveness. We will start with the less obvious ones, as they might require a bit more reflection and can stir up women's natural curiosity. If you identify with any of them, go ahead and get on with it!
. Improve your self-esteem: knowing how to love yourself is the first step you need to take if you want to love someone else and make other people love you. This is not about dismissing self-criticism and accepting blindly your qualities and defects as positive or unchanging traits. It is about knowing yourself better, appreciating what is good in you, working to improve what you do not like, and cultivating self-respect and self-esteem: regard positively what you feel, do and want. In your dates and conversations with single men, remember that sounding self-deprecatory is very unattractive!
. Manage your emotions: women's emotional world is complex and changing, but giving it free rein means losing control over your own life. Learning to skillfully manage your feelings and emotions is an ability that will yield great benefits as long as you live, both on the personal and interpersonal levels. Men find this emotional variability and intensity disconcerting, and are terrified of drama: keep it in mind when you start a relationship with a single man on your dating website.
. Relax: as a whole, men have a more playful view of life, make light of things more often and, in some aspects, are more practical. Women would do good to better discern what is serious and what is not, learn to turn the page in the face of small trouble or mistakes, not analize and try to unravel everything, enjoy more what they do, and worry less about their doing it well or about what is left to do.
Remember any extreme attitud is non-adaptive, and that wisdom lies in balance. For instance, learning to manage your emotions does not imply you should stop acknowledging their existence, or stop feeling and accepting them; neither does it mean you should become an expert emotional manipulator! Do not run after perfection in yourself, nor in your dates, but do appreciate and put into practice the intention to be better, when you search for love online.